Before I get down to the task at hand I have to say, HOW SEXY IS OUR NEW PRESIDENT? My god, thank you Jesus for still making men like that and letting him be our president. Barack Obama you are a serious upgrade from Bush, mentally and physically I swear Gossip Girl can be on and it can be the climax of Chuck and Blair getting back together and Obama and interrupt at anytime, I can always youtube that scene but Barack I want to see in pure HDTV sighhhhh...I swear Michelle Obama has to be the second most luckiest woman in America.!

Anyway moving on to the task at hand. This was posted on dating-ish.

I'm (insert name here), I'm 14, and I have a problem.

The guys at my school have this competition going on: it's called "see who can get (name) in bed first". None of them have succeeded because I know about the bet and guys never try to get to know me - they just try to use me for sex. I'm a virgin but I'm not sure if I want to stay that way.

I have this new boyfriend that I really like, but I don't know if he really likes me or if it's just one big act to get me to have sex with him. I know if I do it and it's just part of the competition, I'll be crushed. But if it's sincere and he really likes me, I want to do it.

Help. 

I cannot see anything right with this entry.! First of all I personally did not lose my Vcard til I was 18 LEGAL.! I honestly think that 14 is way to young to even be thinking that you want to lose your virginity I mean serious do boys even have pubic hair at that age? But none the less I do like the situation, how is a girl suppose to know if the guy likes her or is just in it for the cookie? MAKE HIM WAIT MAKE HIM WAIT. Seriously I read somewhere no matter what guys are always going to be thinking about sex first, whether they want a serious girlfriend is something they think about LATER. So by making him wait longer for sex he begins to be more focused on you and falls in love with you. In this instance even if her boyfriend was in on this thing stupid bet if she plays her V card right he will end up falling in love with her and he would want to wait until she is fully ready. I honestly don't think she is ready to have sex I think she wants to just do it because she is under the watchful eye and society is always pushing sex on to young teenagers. But at the end of the day I honestly think a girl should wait at lease ONE MONTH before she even considered having sex with a guy she is dating virgin or not.! Some men has told me that if a guy is just in it for the sex whether you give it to him right away or a month later he still will leave, I agree with that but if you make him wait long you get to see his true colors and what he is all about, and if he leaves at lease that saves you the trouble and you don't have to be a notch on his belt, but if one feels that they are truly ready to perform an adult act such as sex then one needs to start thinking like an adult an take adult responsibilities and precaution aka RAP IT UP, trust STDs are not cute and it stays with you FOREVER.! But seriously it is best to wait besides sex is so much better when two people are in love.! TRUST

UNTIL NEXT TIME
Take care
xoxo You know You love me
Anna

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I went work out with my boyfriend and his best friend today, and one thing I noticed is that a lot more people stared at me today. Mind you, most of these people are middle aged to really old Chinese people. I'm a 19 year old Chinese/Vietnamese girl and my boyfriend is white; his best friend is also white. So, yes. I did get a lot of weird looks and stares. But that's not the point of this blog. 

We did some cardio, and I wanted to do some more, but the guys didn't. I told them they could just go do weights while I finished. I walked over to them, and they were in the free weights section of the room. I felt like there was too much testosterone for me, so I went over to the weight machines and started working on my legs. Now, when I work out, I tend to look around at people a lot. After my first two sets, I stopped and looked around. I found one guy looking over his shoulder at me and when I made eye contact with him, he turned back around and continued his reps.

I looked around again, and this guy in front of me was blatantly watching me use the machine. I asked if he needed the machine. He smiled and said no. So I continued on my third set, only to see out of the corner of my eye another guy looking at me. Normally when I work out, I work out with my friend, and I don't notice the people around me. But when I'm alone, I tend to notice more and more people looking, which didn't bother me too much. But for some reason today it did. I finished my 5th set and walked over to my boyfriend. I told him that there were too many guys watching me. His face and attitude completely changed. He became stubborn and moody.

We three decided to go have some pho, and while we were waiting for our food, my boyfriend went to the restroom and his best friend asked me if I was annoyed with something. I told him I just didn't understand why he was all moody. He told me it was probably because I told him that other guys were checking me out. This threw me for a loop. I thought he would want to know if something like that happened. He said that the opposite would be what should happen. "He doesn't want people checking you out, so he wouldn't want to know if they are".

Is that true? Do guys not want to know if someone is checking out their girls? Honestly, I'd want to know if some girl was gawking at my guy. But maybe it's different between the genders. Girls, do you want to know if some girl is checking your guy out? Should I not have said anything?

This was my response

sweetie you have to understand. men are like HUNTERS they love the chase and feel proud when they get it. So if another guy is checking you out, in his mind another tiger is trying to get to his tigeress, so he becomes defensive aka stubborn and moody. It is true men dont like it, to them its a pride thing, to you you should take it as flattery. In a way it might be insecurity but for the most part is about pride. Also the fact that he is white and dating an asian girl he knows that he has a good thing, he also knows that he has become somewhat of a target in the asian men community (asian men hate the fact that white men are 'stealing' their women *roll eyes*) the best thing to do is not to provoke him futhur but just give his ego a lil stroke, remember what they say when you stroke a mans ego for a minute, you have him for LIFE. At the end of the day try to relation and empathize with him, do you want other white girls staring at him? would you like it? would you want to be told?

In addition to it being a pride thing, if you tell him that not only did you take a punch to his pride, you also let him know that you are paying attention to these wackass dudes checking you out, which makes it a punch and a kick as well. At the end of the day with this situation ignorance is bliss, he knows deep inside that dudes check you out,  he just doesnt want to be told about it. For the most part guys dont really care, they actually sometimes find it comforting that his girl is being checked out, it shows that he is not dating a busted chick. After all Omarion said it himself "who wants a girl that no dude chase?"